Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Baby Steps

First of all, an update on Aurora.  She is hanging in there.  I would say that her health is no worse than it was a month ago.  In some ways she is healthier.  I'm not sure what the future holds as far as medication goes, but I'm grateful that she isn't getting worse. She has an appointment with a specialist in a couple of weeks, so we hope to find out more soon.

As far as our dynamic goes...things have been in sort of a holding pattern.  This past weekend, however, Aurora asked me if we could take things deeper on the mental side of things.  She craves the control and while the physical side needs to be limited because of her health condition at the moment, she really wants to work on the mental side.

After some thinking about this, I have decided to slowly go deeper mentally.  I will confess that I had and still have some reservations about it.  I have seen that what we are doing now is working.  Her condition is not getting worse and I'm a firm believer in the saying "If it ain't broke, don't fix it".  However, in a way it is broken.  Aurora isn't getting what she needs right now and either am I.  So, while her physical health will always be my number one priority...it is worth exploring if we can grow mentally without affecting her condition.

I am going to go slow with this.  I know that will frustrate Aurora a little bit, as patience has never been her strength...but I have a couple of reasons for the slow pace.  First of all, I want to make sure that whatever we do, it doesn't affect her health.  And secondly, this is going to be a long road.  I want to be have Aurora feel like we are not standing still.  I feel like if I gave her a bunch of rules and rituals right away, she will soon feel like things are standing still again.  It's important for us to feel that connection and feel that we are growing together. 

I have no doubt that we will beat this nasty disease and that we will get back to where we used to be, both physically and mentally.  Baby steps and patience are going to be essential.

10 comments:

  1. Good to hear from you again. Thanks for the update. While I don't en\/y ( sorry broken \/ on keyboard) Auroa's struggles, I do en\/y how you realize how important ttwd is to her and her heart.
    Holding you in my thoughts
    willie

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    1. Thank you for your thoughts! It is important to her and I think that my first instinct was to drop everything and care for her health.And while that is important, I cannot forget about her mind.

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  2. Oh, I love how you are going to explore mentally. That is awesome! My fingers are crossed and many prayers your way. Really hope Aurora is back to her spunky self soon.

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    1. Thanks for you kind words. Yes, I do hope she is back to herself soon too!

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  3. I was just thinking of you both today! I was going to send an email to see how things were going. Give Aurora a big hug!
    It's exciting to hear how many ways this dynamic can go when you need to adjust.

    Take care! XOXO Pearl

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    1. Thank you for all of your support! I will definitely give Aurora that hug for you!

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  4. Thank you for the update Phillip. So glad to hear Aurora is stable, in that her condition isn't getting any worse. Sending positive thoughts and prayers and hope the appointment with the specialist results in a positive way forward.

    I think going deeper mentally is a great way to reinforce your dynamic while the physical aspects can't be present. I also think you are wise to take it slowly.

    Thank you again for the update. You and Aurora are always in my thoughts and I know you will get through this time together.

    Hugs
    Roz

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    1. Thank you for your thoughts! We really do appreciate all of you! Everybody is so supportive!

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    1. Glad to see that you are just as excited as Aurora!

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