Monday, November 17, 2014

Finding the Groove

This has been a rollercoaster of a year.  We have had so many ups and downs in our journey this year.  It's been difficult.  I wouldn't have it any other way.  I am a firm believer that obstacles make you stronger.  We have had our share of them in the last 20 years, as have many couples I'm sure.  Those obstacles have made us who we are today and I'm grateful for each one.

I finally feel like we are beginning to find our groove. Finding what works for us at this moment.  We are beginning to start up some simple rituals that reinforce Aurora's submissiveness. We have been able to throw in some denial.  I can be a little bit rougher sexually.  A lot of those things feed my dominance and her submission. The more submissive she is, the more dominant I get.  The more dominant I get, the more it feeds her submissiveness.  And that is how the groove is found between us.  We begin to feed off of each other.

Sure, there are things that we cannot do physically because of Aurora's condition.  My spanking stick has been living a lonely life for the past 10 months, for instance.  While that is something that both Aurora and I enjoy and need, these past months have taught us how to live without the spanking stick, among other things.  There will be a happy and glorious day when the spanking stick is dusted off and returned to it's rightful place across Aurora's ass.  However, at this point we make due without it if we must. 

I'm convinced that these obstacles have made me a better dominant.  They have made Aurora a slightly more patient submissive. As with anything in life, when faced with an obstacle or barrier...you find a way around it. It may change your path temporarily or even permanently, but it should never stop you.  We have had our pauses and at times it may have even felt like we were going backwards, but as long as you don't give up...you find a new path.  And while I may not move down our path at the pace that Aurora prefers, we're moving and we're moving steady.


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    1. I really like it too! Thanks for stopping by Leigh.

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  2. I love the quotes too. I'm so glad you two are finding your groove and what works for you at the moment. Dominance and submission really do feed off each other.

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    Roz

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    1. Thanks Roz. Yes, how they feed off of each other is probably one of the biggest realizations we have made as we started this journey.

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  3. Adapt and overcome!!
    It's so good to see that things are finally looking better for you both. You have been put thru the ringer for sure! But as I have told aurora .. these curves balls that life has kept throwing you have only served to make you both stronger!
    (((hugs)))
    gk

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  4. I'm really happy for the both of you!

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  5. You sound like a very wise man. I think that the two of you are doing really well in getting into the groove. I would wager to guess that my husband would be in agreement about the dominant, the more submissive and the more submissive the more dominant. Love the pictures

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    1. Thank you Blondie! Yes, it is funny how that works, but it is so true!

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