tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post4157143213302855899..comments2021-02-18T06:11:19.827-08:00Comments on Not Your Everyday Fairy Tale: Harder Than It Ought To BePhilliphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11390366151277497864noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post-66522885865340300512013-11-21T09:33:10.159-08:002013-11-21T09:33:10.159-08:00Thanks Roz! And being honest about the feelings is...Thanks Roz! And being honest about the feelings is so much easier. That's something I was never super good at before TTWD so it's been a bit of a struggle sometimes. I'm just hoping I can get even better at it!Aurorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04365630119816029337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post-23910877445325726442013-11-21T09:31:21.110-08:002013-11-21T09:31:21.110-08:00Thanks willie. Lol Horror Moans - I like that. And...Thanks willie. Lol Horror Moans - I like that. And that's a great way to think about 'it taking the control away from him' by choosing to not burden him.Aurorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04365630119816029337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post-64989657272631690382013-11-21T09:28:30.626-08:002013-11-21T09:28:30.626-08:00Gosh yes its, and I hear that too all the time.Gosh yes its, and I hear that too all the time.Aurorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04365630119816029337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post-40193398122150624732013-11-21T09:26:48.984-08:002013-11-21T09:26:48.984-08:00Thanks Fondles!! And very good point about their f...Thanks Fondles!! And very good point about their feelings and them not thinking we're the burden. I know he wants and needs to take care of these things for me. He's said that before. So going to him with my needs fulfills his needs.<br /><br />But for me sometimes it's so much easier said than done...lol.<br />Aurorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04365630119816029337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post-20820687537222674862013-11-21T09:22:51.681-08:002013-11-21T09:22:51.681-08:00Hi Anastasia! Yes insecurity does make everything ...Hi Anastasia! Yes insecurity does make everything so much worse and it's a huge struggle of mine. Speaking up does make things so much simpler. Thanks for stopping by!Aurorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04365630119816029337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post-13297397674845995492013-11-21T09:20:43.279-08:002013-11-21T09:20:43.279-08:00I know! I wish I could be better about this. Thank...I know! I wish I could be better about this. Thanks DF!Aurorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04365630119816029337noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post-83936040792673561192013-11-21T01:13:40.810-08:002013-11-21T01:13:40.810-08:00Not wanting to be 'work' or a burden? it&...Not wanting to be 'work' or a burden? it's a hard one isn't it and I think we all feel the same way. It really is so much better if we can be honest about how we are feeling. I'm so glad you were able to do that. <br /><br />Hugs,<br />RozRozhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14326826956049047973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post-2991327049603834482013-11-20T16:23:56.623-08:002013-11-20T16:23:56.623-08:00You know Horror Moans as I like to call them have ...You know Horror Moans as I like to call them have a way of reeking havoc in a way that the week prior it never would have. It took my husband a while to understand that, in the ttwd boundaries. For a while he didn't know what to do. After he figured it out, just knowing he was there for me seemed to change my anxiety level. <br />Being honest is a wonderful thing. Being able to do it, not as easy as it sounds. But by making up your mind that you are a burden to him, takes the control away from him and gives it to you. You have made the decision. I am happy that you were able to let you were able to talk to him and he was able to reassure you!<br />willie williehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01907855123777628267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post-17011462071235927422013-11-20T11:04:25.852-08:002013-11-20T11:04:25.852-08:00it is nice when we read something knowing someone ...it is nice when we read something knowing someone else is struggling to..Tyler says I over think all the timeDaisy Christianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02068847822523639638noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post-62894986709960647942013-11-20T08:49:30.541-08:002013-11-20T08:49:30.541-08:00dear dear aurora... it's like reading a page f...dear dear aurora... it's like reading a page from my own blog... <br /><br />after a while you'll understand that telling him the truth honestly as soon as possible makes things way better way sooner. <br /><br />i know about feeling like i shouldn't ADD to his burdens. but they don't THINK we're a burden. we need to start understanding this. <br /><br />tell him - you'll find the words that fit for you. <br /><br />mine sound something like "i know you're busy and have a ton of things on but i'm feeling horrid and i don't want to be a pain but i need you to help me feel better if you can... " <br /><br />acknowledging they're busy says you're not being selfish, but just coming to him with a need. that's what this is all about isn't it? <br /><br />*good luck*Fondleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03538688586112598309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post-32670114501750501682013-11-20T07:54:14.318-08:002013-11-20T07:54:14.318-08:00Insecurity does make things more difficult, doesn&...Insecurity does make things more difficult, doesn't it? We want to say something, but we fear being rejected or judged. So we bury it, and in the process we make things more complicated. It would be easier if the people in our lives could read us better, but sometimes we have to find the courage to speak up. And to be open to other perspectives and hearing what others have to say.<br /><br />Hugs to you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17985256585510471811noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6883557408911719858.post-89730779339723183292013-11-20T07:45:11.251-08:002013-11-20T07:45:11.251-08:00Unburdening without being a burden.... I wish I ha...Unburdening without being a burden.... I wish I had some words of wisdom to tackle this, but I don't! It's a habit we all wish we could break.<br />hugs<br />DFDelFontehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02877826634987802545noreply@blogger.com